Miss keep your distance
Miss out of my way
Miss don’t let a man interfere, no
Miss on her own
Miss almost grown
Miss never let a man help her off her throne
So, by keeping her heart protected
She’d never ever feel rejected
Little miss apprehensive…
How many of you all feel like your independence is a double edged sword? Don’t be shy it’s okay! Trust me, there’s a whole bunch of Oprah’s out here, and most recently Jeannie Mai allowed her independence to END her marriage.
Lets define independent woman: a female who is free from outside control; not depending on another’s authority. Financially, emotionally or otherwise. This woman does not need a partner for a thing. Gone are the times where a woman would stay home with her parents until her spouse came and rescued her. Now, we have full careers, some of us buy homes, cars, and once your spouse arrives he isn’t NEEDED he’s WANTED.
Is this where the issues begin for the new generation of daters? We used to have gender roles. Let’s be clear, I don’t believe we need to have traditional roles… however the person you choose to be with should bring something to your life that you are missing. What is the woman missing who has it all? It’s something intangible, it’s something INSIDE. That’s what a lot of relationships are missing, an unbreakable soul tie that has nothing to do with money, cars and trips. Miss Independent wants to laugh after a long day of running her business. Miss Independent wants a guy who will listen to her ramblings. But most importantly Miss Independent wants a guy who will respect her independence and not belittle it.
The generation of men now (forgive me good guys) offer nothing but sex and bullshit. For the good ones who have more than sex to offer, are independent themselves and are willing to connect intellectually …they are so few and far between. Frankly it’s hard to identify a ‘good guy’ when you’ve dealt with the bullshit for so long.
So to answer Ms Clarksons question: Miss Independent is too focused on her OWN security to fulfill and satisfy a mans IN-security. But sadly it’s a double edged sword and this independence causes her to miss out on what could possibly be her blessing.
Miss independent has to step OUTSIDE of herself to find herself and THAT is hard when there’s no one to catch you if you fall. But what if you soar darling?
I promise I’m not bitter you guys. In fact I’m better because I’ve acknowledged my own flaws and capabilities. These posts about unfortunate events in love and life are my way of letting you know, you can still thrive in spite of heart break and let downs. I know I have.