A Letter to A Main Chick

A Letter to A Main Chick

Dear !@#$%^,

My name is unimportant. What matters is that I am a woman who has stood in your shoes multiple times. The woman you are is the woman I’ve been on many occasions. And I’m not sorry. The man you lay beside every night once warmed my bed, but turned my heart cold. I had to see for myself what it was like to be on the other side.



Initially, I felt bad for you, so when he would beg to swim in my ocean again, I brushed it off. But something changed, and when I finally gave in my sympathy for you washed away. He gave me the parts of him I missed when he used to be mine. You know what I’m talking about, don’t you? The pieces you enjoy before the label of ‘relationship’ is tacked on and everything suddenly becomes overly complicated.


You face-timed him once while we were together. This time it wasn’t for sex, he just wanted to keep my company. Just to talk. Just to vibe. See, sis, I learned a valid lesson from that night to the other nights when he couldn’t resist my body multiple times. I could be you, or I could be me and HE will always be a dog chasing a bone. I just had to see, for once, what it was like to be on the other side of the game. And really it’s no winner or loser. Just wanted you to know, I know exactly how you feel.



Welcome to the life of a woman scorned.


47 thoughts on “A Letter to A Main Chick

  1. Honey, did I just read my life ?… I feel most women have been here time and time again. great read Felecia Monique

  2. Honeyyyy, you said a mouthful! I feel like I’ve lowkey been on both sides of the fence…sometimes accidental and it’s just an all around messy situation. Like you said, most times they are a dog chasing the bone…no matter where it comes from

  3. Love love love it! You did that sis. I think many women whether they will admit it or not have been in that position. Great read!2

  4. Wow, it’s amazing how this plays out for women from so many different age groups. I’ve heard this same kind of situation from peers, family, parents, etc…

  5. Wow, it’s amazing how this plays out for women from so many different age groups. I’ve heard this same kind of situation from peers, family, parents, etc…

    Love this piece, and your writing voice.

  6. In the end, nobody wins.. that is def the truth. Dog chasing his bone, yes it seems like if it’s not you two it will be two more…

  7. Honesty allows for growth. Thank you for sharing this. More than one woman I know needs to read this. We’ve spent too many years fighting the other woman, as of the man didn’t go lie down next to her

  8. Wow! Thank you for sharing this. I think this side of things is something that definitely needs and should be shared so kudos to you for doing just that in such a creative and artful way.

  9. Well damn! I don’t even know what else to say but…damn. I loved everything about this. Let’s chat about sharing this on my blog…

  10. I was reading this and I got to the end and I’m like “awwww why’d it have to be over ” I wanted more ! Which is very unusual in a typical blog post because usually your like “when will this story end” so therefore very well written ! And I’m sure a lot of women can relate ……shoot me ! For gods sake ! But you get me point ! Excellent post

  11. Def. agree that in the end nobody wins and whether ppl like to admit or not, both women involved get hurt, even if it’s just a little.

  12. Very entertaining to read. You definitely have a gift. Keep it up, very very engaging.

  13. Wow. This was good. I can definitely resonate with this and it’s so sucky because these men don’t deserve this much power.

  14. I love the outfit. This post is so real, and necessary for so many people. You left a cliff hanger at the end can not wait to read more.

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