I was riding to work the other day listening to the radio and there was a huge debate about whether a person should keep a “cushion” while they’re in a relationship.
Cushion – a person or persons a person in a committed relationship keeps around for comfort or other significant purposes.
Here’s a tea spiller: I LOVE CUSHIONS. They’re perfect for late night conversations, gas money or a loan, dinner when I don’t want to pay for it, impromptu random fun and NO OBLIGATIONS. These situations are ideal when your significant other is JUST NOT THE ONE.
Cushions are for single people! Be real. Stop philandering if you aren’t satisfied.
In most of my relationships I’ve kept a cushion. Multiple cushions. I had so many cushions I was a damn couch. My cushions always offered a benefit for my ego. I felt loved. I felt attractive. I felt needed. How the hell do you have a whole boyfriend and don’t feel loved, attracted or needed? There was a validation I desired and unfortunately the price I had to pay for it may have cost me my relationship.
Not that my boyfriends at the time knew about the cushioning, but integrity is everything. How can a relationship thrive and reach it’s full potential if the energy fueling it is going towards other people?
Let’s be real. Nobody is going to be everything to someone. If the person you’ve decided to partner with doesn’t fit the mold maybe you need to loosen the fit or tell him. Trust me, it’s easier to hear someone tell you they don’t fit the mold versus getting frustrated with them because you expect them to fit some ideological mold you’ve created.
Do you all keep cushions? Does your significant other know? How has it impacted your relationship if at all?
Hat: Forever 21