What’s life like for a college drop out? This girl is not your regular drop out, I’m a repeat offender. We’re not all Kanye West who had the benefit of using his talent to score a coin. I’m just your average run of the mill student whose focus is on a forever changing graduation date and on that evil witch Sallie Mae (shout out to student loan debt!) Not only that, I am one of those who was awarded a job that I could turn into a career prior to obtaining a degree (accounting). But I’m not here to talk about where I am, I want to talk about a little bit of history and advice for people who feel lost or thrown off track for one reason or another.
I didn’t end up blogging by accident…no no no. My love began as a fashion merchandising major at the University of Delaware and within a semester I was back home and pregnant. (First drop out.) So, there I was with a baby, a retail job and a dream: LOST! Oh, but I delved deeper into the abyss. I tried a different fashion program at the Art Institute…FAIL! After a year I was dropping out again, this time for a full time job opportunity.
Now, I was a drop out twice over, debt up to my neck and further away from my dream. (Queue’s the tiniest violin.) BUT I’m not done yet. I tried online classes…eh not my forte, I’ve got to physically go to school. Then I went to medical tech school. Safe to say I was bored and just needed something to do at that point. Fast forward and I am here. It took a decade to go full circle and actually get back to my passion.
My tips for what to do when you’re lost or have the misfortune of being pulled away from your goals are simple. Hopefully they can help you to begin the daunting task of putting your life in order. Here’s what you should do:
- NOTHING. Standstill for a sec, breathe, clear your mind. If I had taken some time to sit still instead of hopping from one thing to the next hoping to find gold but ultimately it would’ve found me. Don’t forget about the calm before the storm.
- Make a map. Yes a map. Start where you are now and where you want to go should be at the end. Research what steps you need to take to get to that destination and create your own route. Don’t be afraid at any point to redo your map.
- Ask for help. At times the people closest to you may be able to assist you. Most people are afraid to ask for help simply because we want to appear to be self sufficient and independent. I am not embarrassed to say I’ve needed assistance from my peers or my family members. Imagine being helpless…when you don’t have to be. Put your pride to the side and get help while it’s available.
- When an opportunity arises, refer to the map. This is the one mistake I feel like I always made. I had goals but never checked to see if the jobs I was taking were in line with those goals, or to even see if it was worth stepping back from my goals for a moment. There will be times when you have to say no to an opportunity, and just stick to the grind and the struggle.
Have any of you guys had to start over? And over? And over? How have you prevailed or overcome those shortcomings? Leave your opinion in the comments below and feel free to share them via e-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
Outfit Details Below:
Sweatshirt Dress: Missguided
Booties: Similar available at: LolaShoetique
Hair: Diva’s Wigs
Bag: MCM as seen on my previous post HERE