The One That Got Away

The One That Got Away

Hey all! First off let me say I love this suit. I had to get it altered of course, and the color is just so perfect for spring. What do you guys think? Let me get to the point. Boy, oh boy. I met this guy, let’s call him Adam. I was at a point in my life where I was a little unsure about what I wanted romantically. I knew I needed attention, affection and something different. What I needed, Adam delivered. Attention: He constantly stayed in contact with me and invited me to go with him everywhere he went. Affection: He was great with making sure I was comfortable (emotionally, physically, and mentally) and reassured me everyday that I was beautiful (barefaced, wigless and all). Something different: He was a pure gentleman. Adam opened every door for me, made sure I walked on the inside of the side walk, and did not hesitate about paying for each date we went on. So why after two hot and heavy months of dating did I cut Adam off?

I’ve dated enough to know what the basic criteria are for my husband. How attractive he should be, how independent he should be, respectful, intelligent, amazing in bed…all of these standards and non-negotiables. But what if he comes along and he’s just too good for you? Too perfect? The type of person who you can’t measure up against? I felt this way about Adam, like I was always two steps away from ruining  it. So this thought lingers in my mind to this day: What if women who complain about not finding Mr. Right, have already met him and let him go? Or what if I was being too picky and too judgmental? The truth is I already know that I was. Let’s talk about it.



Ya’ll! Humans will run from the things that suit them the best. We will pray and beg God (or whoever you believe in) for the perfect job, or mate, or anything and it will lay right in front of us and we will step right over it, kick it away or plain ignore it. But the reason’s I let Adam go was simply because

I was not ready for him.

So. I said it. This marriage, love, boy crazy girl was not ready for Mr. Perfect. I talk about love, and weddings so much I should be a wedding planner…No, but seriously we have got to stop watering plants when the seeds haven’t been planted yet. Meaning, don’t jump the gun ladies (or gents). It’s all a matter of time. Adam may be gone but that doesn’t mean there isn’t room for Brandon, Chris or David. When you are praying or hoping for something, while you wait, you should be preparing yourself for your dream when it comes true. The last thing you would want is to be a nightmare.

Outfit Details:

Nude Suit – (no longer available here are the suits offered) Missguided

Pumps with Fur – (no longer available similar listed) Lola Shoetique

Body Chain – Forever21


21 thoughts on “The One That Got Away

  1. The suit is really lovely and ready for Spring. Hey..when you’re not ready, you can’t fully commit so l sort of get where you’re coming from. It’s not easy is it?

  2. Yeah, its essential that you be ready for whatever it is you ask for. And I love this suit too! Perfect color and everything.

  3. Loving the outfit and loving the message. Spend that time learning yourself and preparing yourself for when that good thing comes along.

  4. Cute outfit. I didn’t have one that got away. I held on to my guy and I cherish his memory daily.

  5. You make a great point here, maybe the one that got away, got away for a good reason. I think I went through the opposite dating prospects lol so when I met my husband I locked it down quick!

  6. Sounds like you are surviving well and you now recognize what you want in a relationship. Being ready for it when it comes is a whole other topic though.

  7. I love your outfit! It looks great on you. You spoke some great truths. Sometimes people want to stick to who they think their type is and miss their one. Thank you for sharing.

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